Relationships can be a beautiful experience….when they work.
The reality is that it’s not always going to be roses and kissy boo boo crap. You’re going to be tested over and over again and not every relationship is strong enough to pass these trials. Love can be very fleeting when you’re chemistry is lacking, and it’s a lot easier to fall out of love than you think.
Often times we mistake love for infatuation.
And infatuation burns out.
First off, don’t always blame yourself. The heart wants what it wants and if you try and force yourself into a situation that doesn’t make you happy you’ll only end up miserable. We seem to blame those who fall out of love and label them but they’re not horrible people. They’re in tune with themselves enough to know what they want.
The worst thing for you to do is string a relationship along with someone you don’t cherish. It’s a waste of both your time and theirs. Have enough respect to open up your feelings and explain how you fell out of love. Give them closure and try not to blame them for how you feel.
If you see a chance to reconcile and rekindle the passion in your relationship then you can try and work on it but I’m not going to lie, it’s unnatural. Falling out of love is very tricky and often it’s difficult to get those feelings back. You can’t just wait around with them and hope that the spark comes back. You may even come to the conclusion that those feelings weren’t there in the first place.
So what do you do? How do you handle being in a relationship but not being in love?
You have to take a step back. If you don’t want this person out of your life then take a break to figure out what you want in the relationship. Use this time to grow as close friends again and remind yourself of what made you fall for them in the first place.
Or you can move on. If you can’t see yourself with them anymore then do what’s best for your heart. No one should ever feel obligated to be unhappy.
Life is too damn short.