Y’all still up? Good.
I wasn’t really gonna post anything today but eh, why not. Plus, I’ve had this idea in my head all day and I just can’t stop thinking about it:
Does a high body count matter?
No seriously. Is it really that big of a deal? I mean just imagine you find your perfect partner. You finally found your 1 in 7 billion. But it just so happens that this person has ran through enough people for a football team. Do most of us:
A. Leave it alone
B. Break up with them
C. Stay with them, but look at them differently
Now before you go right out and pick A, I want you to really give it some thought. It takes a serious level of maturity to look past a high body count. No one wants to feel like they are being compared to every person you’ve been with.
I suppose that the less people you’ve slept with the less expectations you may have and that can be comforting. The reality is that most of us pick B or even C. We can’t help it. In all honestly it’s an insecurity thing, especially with men.
When we look for long-partners we get so wrapped up in the trivial aspects. Hoe material vs wife material, High body counts vs low body counts, it’s all just a waste of energy. Listen if you’re blessed enough to find someone who loves you and is loyal to you then it doesn’t matter who they have been with.
They chose you.
Don’t push them away, especially if they’re are willing to give you the best parts of themselves. They shouldn’t be defined by the people they’ve been with but instead on how they treat you.
It’s important to discuss they’re past relationships but don’t judge too harshly if they’ve never given you a reason to. The worst thing to do is create a problem when their really isn’t one.
The quest for love can be long and difficult. Nowadays, we may have to kiss a lot of frogs before finding the right one. And you know what? That’s ok.
Besides it’s not how you start, but how you finish. Maybe you can be their best, and last.